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It can be difficult to find your personal style, if you’re stuck in a negative mindset about the way you look. It’s all very well for me, other Personal Stylists and whoever else to give you tips & tricks to try and boost your confidence. But true self-esteem comes from within.

It’s something I think about a lot. The small ways in which we are negatively impacting our own self-confidence, then wondering why we don’t feel good about ourselves.

I’m on a mission to reject diet culture because it thrives on us feeling negatively about our bodies. Now I’m not here to preach that you should all do the same, but toxic diet culture affects my clients in many ways. They feel they shouldn’t wear certain things, they try to hide their bodies, they don’t allow themselves to buy clothes until they shrink their bodies, and so on.

Self-compassion doesn’t just mean you have to immediately start loving yourself because it’s not that easy. It’s about not punishing your body and living your life free from the constant thoughts about how to change it. You also don’t need anybody else to approve of the way you look. Focus on feeling healthy and happy in your skin. Don’t place your self-worth in the hands of others.

Personal Style

It is possible to learn to love the way you look through your style, without needing to change your body. Many find that learning about their body shape helps enormously, because they’re no longer dressing to hide, but to accentuate. Your body shape tends to stay the same no matter what size you are, so why not learn how to dress it?

Colour Analysis helps to find the most flattering colours for you, to help you glow on the days you’re not feeling your most sparkly self. Also, a personal stylist can help you identify your style personality so you’re dressing in a way that makes you feel good.

But all these things may need to be done alongside some mindset work.

Mindset

One major influence on how a lot of us feel, is to do with the content we consume every day. If you’re seeing idealised lives and bodies and wardrobes on your social media, is that making you feel good? Unfollow any account that makes you feel bad about yourself or jealous. Stop looking at ‘before and after’ photos. Be honest with yourself about whether that motivates you or upsets you.

Look for diverse accounts or influencers with a similar body type to you (Mys Tyler is great for this.) It’s important that you’re seeing how clothes could realistically look on you, not only on models or potentially photoshopped pictures. Research has shown that the more body positive and diverse content you see (rather than ‘inspirational’ content), the more positive you feel about yourself.

I’m always talking about intentional purchases. Now I’m asking you to stop mindlessly scrolling and start intentionally scrolling. Make sure you’re very carefully curating what you see.

Yes, what I do is about ‘appearance’ – but it’s more than skin deep. It’s about confidence and happiness. I have two children now, and I refuse to allow them to hear any talk of diets, body sizes, etc because there’s more to life. I know that you know that. Start living as though there is. Your size truly is the least interesting thing about you. And I mean that in the kindest possible way.

Life is too short to put your life on hold because of negative body image. Are you living the life you want? Are you dressing the way you’d like to? Are you being as kind to yourself as you are to your friends?

Comment below or contact me for a chat about how I can help.

There’s often a misconception that Personal Stylists will just encourage you to spend money, and that it’s an extravagant treat only celebrities can afford.

In fact, working with a Personal Stylist is an investment that can help you save money.

Keep reading to discover the main ways working with a Personal Stylist can help you save money, while making you feel fabulous at the same time!

1. Avoid buying into trends that don’t suit you

A Personal Stylist can perform a Colour Analysis to show you what colour clothing suits you best.

They can help women and men understand what clothes flatter their body shape, so they can dress with confidence.

A good Stylist will also explain how to dress for your personal style, so you’re bringing these aspects together to suit your lifestyle and personality.

Once you’ve had a Personal Style Assessment, you can appreciate those new fashion trends whilst avoiding wasting money on the ones that don’t suit YOUR style.

Dressing for your body type

2. Less time traipsing around the shops or trawling online stores

When you invest in a Personal Shopping experience with a Stylist, we pre-select items before our shopping trip that we think will look amazing on you. On the day, we work with you to choose the perfect outfits so you go home with clothes that will work hard in your wardrobe.

If you’re the type of person who dreads clothes shopping or finds it stressful, then it’s a real treat to get some expert assistance in the fitting rooms.

For an Online Shop, we can create a shoppable mood board for you to select items from.

This way you’ll know that they will all suit you and you won’t have to spend time looking through lots of websites as we’ve done the hard work for you.

The success rate for these is high, so it should save you time and money on returning bad online purchases.

3. You’ll learn to wear what’s already in your wardrobe

A common misconception about Wardrobe Edits is that we’ll make you get rid of most of your clothes!

Unless that’s what you’d like us to help with, it’s not the case.

We can show you how to wear everything in your wardrobe, rather than just a small portion of it.

The fun part about the edit is creating new outfits from what you already have, and we’ll keep a list of any gaps that are worth filling so you get the most from your collection.

Once you have a clearer idea of what you own, you won’t waste so much money buying new all the time.

We can also help you sell anything that’s of value during the decluttering process.

4. Personal Stylists give you an unbiased, expert opinion that you can trust

Ever gone shopping with your family or friends and they just shrug when you try things on, or tell you everything looks great?

Or used a personal shopper in a department store who didn’t seem to “get” you?

An independent Personal Stylist is trained to help you find items that are perfect for you, because you are the client – not the store.

We work with you to ensure you don’t waste money on clothes you’ll leave in your wardrobe unworn, or you don’t feel fantastic in.

We’ll also teach you our stylist tips, so you’re learning along the way how to dress your best!

5. You won’t be influenced to buy things you don’t need

We’ve all been there. Something looks great on your friend or that person on Instagram, so you buy it on impulse. 

Or there’s a Sale on, so you snap up some bargains without thinking them through.

However, once a Personal Stylist has helped you rediscover your own style you can avoid these mistakes.

Some stylists, like myself, even have a Style Subscription for personalised monthly inspiration.

Being confident in your personal style will take away that feeling of panic buying and uncertainty.

We can show you how to look like an improved version of yourself, rather than a copy of somebody else.

So, as you can see, working with a Personal Stylist is not only a fantastic treat for yourself and a confidence boost but it can save you money, time, and stress in the long term.

Contact me today if you’d like a chat about any of my styling services and see my testimonials to see what people are saying about their experience.